Arm / Leg Sleeves - Play which
involves binding the arms/legs of the submissive to restrict mobility.
Bathroom Use Control – Scenes where
the Dominant restricts or takes control over the submissive’s bodily functions.
Examples in play: House training a puppy, age play, and golden shower play.
Beating ,Spanking Striking the
body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment.
Spanking – Play which involves the use of a hairbrush to inflict pain on
the buttocks.
Commonly used in “naughty boy / girl”
scenes for punishment.
Blindfolds - Play which involves
temporarily blocking the submissive’s sense of sight. This type of play is
essential when everyday objects are used to give unexpected sensations.
Bondage – Immobilisation. The
restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings
of various types or textures
Boot Worship – The practice of play
involving a fetish for boots / shoes. Commonly used for Domination and
humiliation practices (licking or cleaning of the Dominant’s boots, shoes
or bare feet).
Breast / Chest Bondage – The
restriction / bondage of the woman’s breast / chest area for erotic reasons
using various types of fastenings (i.e., rope, scarves, etc.).
Cages – Most common is the use of a
large animal cage. Construction of a cage can be of wood, steel, fencing
material. Used to confine the submissive, for play or punishment.
Caning – Often people think
canes are made of bamboo though bamboo is prone to splintering so rattan is
preferred. Many feel caning produces the most pain.
Cells or Closets – Play which
involves locking the submissive in a cell-type device and / or closet. Usually
as a form of punishment.
Chains – A strong metal type of
bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and
potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material.
Chamber-Pot Use – Scenes involving
the use of the toilet for humiliation and / or control. Generally used for
medical scenes.
Chastity Belt –The banning or
physically preventing one (male or female) from achieving orgasm or any form of
genital stimulation. A means of domination over one’s submissive. A device
(lockable) panty-type which when worn prevents any type of genital stimulation.
Chores (Domestic Service) – Scenes
where the Dominant requires the submissive to perform chores and / or domestic
service in either sexually pleasing clothing (maid outfits) or naked.
Clothespins – Small pinning devices
used for hanging clothes. Generally used in BDSM play as quite effective nipple
clamps, testicle clamps, etc.
Collar – A collar worn around the
neck to indicate one’s submissiveness. These can be made of leather, steel,
rubber, rope. Used in scenes for humiliation and / or examples such as dog /
puppy or even boy / girl play.
Corsets – A lingerie / binding type
device worn to restrict the chest area and make the waist smaller. Worn by
early 19th Century women as a form of formal dress to make one ’s self more
appealing to the opposite sex.
Crotch Torture – Any form of torture
to the male or female genital area.
Cuffs – A leather or metal bondage
device used to restrict movement. Usually locks around the limbs in order to
place the submissive in a precarious position.
Double Penetration – Play involving the
penetration of two or more bodily orifices with various types of devices and /
or genitalia, (penetration of the mouth / rectum / vagina, etc.)
Electricity – Using electricity in
BDSM play. Popular devices include “TENS” units designed for the relief of
muscle and back pain; muscle stimulation devices (EMS), several different
e-stim power boxes, and “Violet Wands” .
Erotic Dance – Scenes involving
erotic dancing / stripping as a form of erotic pleasure; i.e., dancing /stripping
to music.
Exercise – Play which involves
forcing one’s submissive to exert physical exercise as a form of
control/humiliation (may include lifting, running, weight-lifting).
Exhibitionism – Scenes involving the
display of public / private exhibitionism in order to exert control and / or
humiliation.
Eye Contact Restrictions –
Restricting one’s submissive from any eye contact with the Dominant (forcing
submissive to look away / look down). Similar to military boot camps. Control
is enforced by the Dominant by refusing eye contact.
Face Slapping – Involves play where a
moderate amount of slapping of the face is used for humiliation / control.
Fear – Incorporating fear into scenes
by using the submissive’s own fears as an outline for play.
Flogger – A whip device usually with
many “tails”. Used on buttocks or back, generally to make nerve sensations
greater. Floggers can be used on the genital areas. Can be used for play or
punishment.
Flogging horse – A device used to
secure one on this bench-like, padded, sawhorse. Usually made waist height,
with the use of tethers attached to wall or floor to secure the submissive.
Food Play – Where the Dominant
controls amount and type of food allowed to be consumed by the submissive. This
includes liquid intake as well.
Forced Dressing – Forcing the
submissive to dress however the Dominant sees fit, whether publicly or
privately. Used generally for humiliation.
Forced Masturbation – Scenes where
the submissive is forced to perform masturbation in front of/for the Dominant
or others as a form of erotic / sensual play or humiliation.
Forced Nudity – A scene which
involves forcing one’s submissive to remain nude either privately or publicly.
Generally as a form of control / humiliation.
Forced Servitude – A form of play
involving the submissive acting as a servant / maid to the Dominant. May be
played out in public or in private as a form of humiliation.
Full-Head Hoods – A flexible covering
for the head and sometimes neck. These come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and
textures. Worn to prevent the sense of sight for erotic purposes.
Gags – To restrict the use of the
mouth by inserting a gag, in various textures.
Hair Pulling – Pulling of one’s hair
for the purpose of pain / humiliation.
Harness – Bondage apparatus
consisting of a network of straps designed to form a web over a large area of
the body or head.
Homage – term meaning to pay respects
to; homage; honour. A ceremony involving the submissive “honouring” the
Dominant in some way – public or private.
Hot Oils –The use of warmed oils for
massaging or various other uses for erotic type play.
Hot Wax – The wax most commonly used
are candles and can be used on various parts of the body for erotic
stimulation.
Housework –Play involving the
Dominant instructing the submissive to perform domestic duties as a form of
punishment / control. Sometimes used as erotic play (i.e., cleaning in the
nude).
Humiliation – To humiliate the
submissive by requiring them to perform things they normally would not do, most
commonly in public (i.e., wearing revealing clothing; playing out puppy, boy /
girl scenes, etc.).
Ice Play – ice used on nipples or
genital areas for desensitization of senses or nerves.
Interrogations – Term meaning
question, systematically and formally. Commonly performed in “police
interrogations”; police-type scene. Commonly used for humiliation.
Kidnapping – Some players in the BDSM
scene have fantasies regarding kidnapping and may ask for a scene involving
some sort of “play kidnapping” by being seized and detained.
Kneeling – To be used as a form of
“respect” toward the Dominant. Making the submissive kneel when the Dominant
enters the room, during scene, in public, etc. A punishment form of kneeling is
where the submissive is kneeling in a different position then for *offering*
herself.
Manacles / Irons – Metal rings joined
by a chain to restrain the wrist or ankles.
Massage – Using the hands (generally)
to massage areas of the body. Possibly giving a massage to “warm up” or
“foreplay” before play.
Mentor – One who assists another in
study. Usually a well-versed Dominant helping a submissive understand the
lifestyle and their role in it. A Mentor guides another to achieve knowledge.
Mouth Bits – A type of mouthpiece,
generally used on horses and ponies, that is inserted into the mouth and is
used to bite down on. Used typically during pony girl / boy play scenes.
Mummification – A specialized kind of
bondage in which the whole body, including the head, if a breathing tube is
used, is wrapped tightly to prevent any type of mobilization.
Nipple Clamps – Clamp-type devices
placed on the nipples during play to stimulate and stop blood flow to the
nipple.
Orgasm Control – When one is forced
to release or hold their body’s desires to orgasm. Can be used in play or
punishment.
Outdoor Scenes – Scenes involving the
great outdoors! Any scene where the couple is outside during scenes or play.
Pain – In broad terms, pain is the
body’s warning that something is wrong; however, our pain responses are very
complex and it is very easy to produce the effect of pain without doing any
real harm to the body. The “pain threshold” at which a stimulus crosses the
boundary between intense sensation and pain is a gray area in terms of our
perception. Interests are a mixture of physical aspects and the psychological
dynamics of Domination and submission, and some play with hardly any physical
pain at all.
Piercing – Temporary piercing is done
with a small, thin needle which can be removed without permanent scarring after
the session is completed. (nipple piercing, ear piercing, genital piercing).
Mostly done to enhance the sensual areas of the skin
Rack – A table-like device which is
fitted with pulling or stretching capabilities. Some racks incorporate pulleys,
winches or wheels for pulling one in opposing directions. Paddles or whips are
generally used on the person on a rack.
Riding Crop – A short whip-type
instrument made of leather with a “loop” at the end which is intended for use
on horses. May be used in scenes involving pony boy / girl type play. Riding
crops are used to administer punishment, as well.
Rope bondage – There are many styles
of rope work from simple to very intricate.
Rubber / Latex Clothing – (Spandex )
Besides leather, this type of clothing is the next best thing. One example may
be a rubber hood.
Saint Andrews Cross – This is a cross
made in an X formation. It is generally angled and self-supporting. Used for
sexual play, or punishment can be administered while attached to the cross.
Saran Wrap – Plastic wrapping used
most commonly to wrap leftover food.
Sensory Deprivation – Play which
involves “depriving” the submissive of certain sensory perceptions. May include
blindfolds, bondage, gags, etc.
Shaving – Using a razor or straight
blade to shave hair from the body.
Shibari – The art of Intricate
Japanese Rope Bondage. Bondage patterns are intricate, and artistically
pleasing.
Slave – A totally subordinate person
who needs total direction in all aspects of their life. To be owned, to serve,
without question, and who questions nothing they are told.
Sleep Sack – Refers to a bag in which
the body is wrapped in a sleeping bag type contraption with ropes or straps. An
intense form of “bondage”.
Spanking – involves striking
someone with the palm of the hand or other object (i.e., paddle, hairbrush, pig
slapper, riding crop, etc.) on the buttocks as a form of punishment /
humiliation. Mild spanking can be very erotic and when done correctly can push
the submissive into “subspace” releasing endorphins which in turn creates a
sense of euphoria.
Spreader Bar –A bar type device used
to “spread” apart arms / legs of the submissive.
Stocks – A type of bondage
“furniture” based on the medieval form of stocks used for punishment.
Stocks usually consist of two hinged
pieces of wood with semi-circular holes which when locked together form a ring
large enough for the head / neck and wrists to be placed inside.
Straight Jacket – A jacket type of
garment meant to be worn “backwards”, consisting of close-ended sleeves that
are strapped crisscrossed around the back and tied or locked in place
Strapping – A length of material,
most commonly leather, used for striking the body.
Stretchers – Generally made of wooden
dowel rods or metal tubing, having eyelets to secure a submissive’s arms, legs
apart for play. Stretchers come in various lengths, usually 24 inches to 48
inches.
Suspension – An advanced form of
bondage in which the whole body is “suspended” off the ground and hanging “free
in space”.
Table Play – A padded table, where
the submissive is restrained for play. The table has many securing points to
offer different positions for play or examination.
Teasing – The act of “teasing” to enhance
erotic play or pleasure. Teasing the partner in such a way as to stimulate
sexual pleasure.
Thigh Cuffs – A simple belt around
the waist with connectors around it to restrict the submissive’s movement of
arms and legs.
Voyeurism – Term meaning the act of
watching, peeping. In BDSM play, means to watch someone engage in sex or other
forms of sensual / erotic play.
Whipping – (Caning, Flogger, Strap )
A device consisting of a long, flexible striking surface. Whipping the body
with a whip type device as a form of punishment.
Whipping Post – Designs vary
according to builder, but the principle is to have a tall post with tethers
that hang down, to attach a person from their wrists. Used for positioning a
submissive for ease of whipping.
