Let's start with my title.
There are a number who give themselves the most fanciful of
names that frankly, often, leave them hoisted by their own petard.
I am a most grounded and
level-headed man. Most Doms/Masters or professional dominants, choose a
name that embodies them. How did I select mine? There is double-entendre behind
'Strokes' - it may mean with a whip - it may be with the gentleness of my hand's
caress. I am far more interested in your
psychology and what makes you tick than
I am in satisfying my own ego.
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| BDSM Master Strokes |
What makes me the Master that I am?
The answer is twofold. Firstly, the command and control:
from captaining the Rugby Team as a youngster through a public school education
to joining the British Army as an Officer and
more recently, in civilian life, as a Site Manager building up to 300
homes with 120+ overgrown Neanderthals in hard hats and steel toe boots working
under me. All of this being the absolute clichéd Testosterone Club - I have
always been the Alpha Male - I instinctively have lead and taken control ... I am a proud Scotsman - an
educated barbarian. Rule 1 in my book is that one can never treat all the same
way; everyone is individual and unique
and as such needs to have the way in
which they are treated tailored to their own motivational influences - some are
core to the individual whilst others are circumstantial to that moment in time.
Stick does most certainly have its place but care no less so!
Secondly, my regard for women: Perhaps, as a direct result
of my working life, I have an enormous appreciation of women and anything that I regard as epitomising
femininity - from long hair to nails, make-up to stilettos ... and that's just on a physical level. I will also
ALWAYS find a way in to your soul. Women are generally far more sensual than
men - your emotions run deeper - oft' with skills highly attuned to disguising
them as a defence mechanism - one of my main proven skills/curses through the
years has been to see through them. Female diplomacy is invariably superior to
that of most men, self included, yet my directness usually has shock value. I
see women as anything but inferior ... Simply the yin to my yang. Ultimately -
they have been my greatest fascination - the general difference in their
behaviour from that of the male psyche being far more appealing. No less of a
curiosity has been watching the struggle that they have contended with over the
years. This is one of the main reasons that I believe BDSM has remained a
taboo.
For the last 100 years Society has been telling women that
they need to stand tall as equals: beginning with the likes of Emmeline
Pankhurst and the Suffragettes through to taking-on what was formerly viewed as
men's roles through the 'Great Wars', only to have them removed when the men
returned home, to having role-models ranging from Mother Theresa to Madonna,
Margaret Thatcher to the English Monarch. Yet how many have complained that
they have a partner who does not 'behave like a man' or that they have not felt
'protected and /or cared for'!? There is as much a power struggle WITHIN for
many women as there is an open struggle for equality. For as long as you have
been able to remember Society has dictated that you need to continue that
battle. Is it not indeed the stronger women that can face the world and say, "This
is not necessarily my need or at least not in all regards!"?
Indeed most of the women that I have dominated and whom have
become my BDSM submissive / slave over the years have been bright, articulate,
well educated and, in many cases highly successful in their careers; ranging
from legal professionals to high-powered business women to one of my most
recent, I have named her 'rouge', who heads-up one of the UK's most prestigious
schools of medical learning.
I come from a world of regimentation, hard and fast rules of
order, structure and discipline. Can you imagine a platoon of soldiers in
battle deciding that they would all 'do their own thing'? I have not only
'served' my nation but also a Mistress to learn a number of protocols within
the Scene many years ago. I am a great believer in the ancient Chinese proverb,
"I hear - I forget; I see - I remember; I do - I understand". Order,
reverence, humility and etiquette - all are immensely valued by Me - all will
be practiced by you!
