What you will give to Me and gain from Me?
Initially you will have to show your ability, above all, to
communicate with me. This will remain a constant. My first meeting with you
will be conducted either in a public place over coffee, a drink, maybe Dinner
or in a playroom, especially if you have never actually seen a BDSM one, in
order for me to gain a better understanding of you, and you to gain a flavour
of the BDSM Master that I am. Not all Masters are to the taste of all subs and
slaves. It is not something that either should take personally if a mis-match;
a square peg is simply not designed to fit in a round hole. If you cannot share
your hopes, desires and fears - how can I be expected to use you fully and
effectively for us both? Experienced within the Scene to virginal, it matters
not, assumption is dangerous!
There is a phrase that is core to the world of BDSM,
"Safe, sane and consensual'
I believe in this whole-heatedly and it is to mutual
benefit. I should not be reckless enough to tell you to stick your head in a
lion's mouth any more than you should be foolhardy enough to do so without
question or discussion. This does not however mean that you may contest my instruction;
it simply means that I need to know what your limits are before I engage in any
play with you. It might actually mean that I have to hold you back if you are
trying to run before you can walk!
Only once I have a gauge of your strengths and weaknesses
and agreed parameters will I entertain taking you further. This will not be set
in stone. Between us, very quickly, we will ascertain what was a 'perceived'
truth and a reality; core desires will change; your abilities in one area will
accelerate faster than another ... Parameters will shift and change.
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| Master and His submissive |
Equally you will need to be in physically good shape and
take good care of yourself as I expect no less of myself. That does not imply
that you should qualify as a swimwear model for Vogue anymore than I am on a
par with Charles Atlas. It does mean though that if I am to make an effort for
you - I have every right to expect the same by return! No less - if you are
physically unfit then you will be somewhat limited in the ways that I may use
you. If you have any physical ailments I do expect you to share these with me
from the outset in order that you can serve and be used accordingly.
As your BDSM Master: I will indeed at times be hard/tough
with you; I will push the edge of your envelope - be that physical, emotional
or psychological - to see what strength you have and strength of trust you have in me; I will also
be your teacher and protector - I refer
you back to the fact that I have known a number of 'so self-titled Doms' who I
would term 'Bully/Abuser' - and I will
ensure that either no harm comes to you or, at least, that it is not of a
permanent nature. There will be times when you will need a helping hand to
guide or comfort you and others when you will need to firm hand to direct or
punish you!
