Is it that you have read 'Fifty Shades Of Grey' and want to
know a taste of the same?
If so - although I can probably re-enact some of that for
you - the reality of BDSM and being a BDSM submissive is far removed from the
imagination of E.L.James. As much as
most of us within The Scene will have grated our teeth to read it, if we indeed
managed the entirety of it before resigning it to the bin, the one redeeming
feature that I will acknowledge is the fact that it's allowed many to openly
face what you've known in yourself for years - a desire, perhaps a need, to
serve, submit and possibly become a slave.
Food for thought: you may enter the likes of Ann Summers
from one week to the next and the shop window-display will be changed each
time. There is however one constant; week in - week out, month in - month out,
there is always a range of leather, latex, whips and restraints. Why? The
answer is simple: they reckon that approximately 90% of the UK population has
'dabbled' in BDSM to one degree or another. Have you never had your hands tied
with a scarf or had one used to blindfold you? If so - you too have indeed
already dipped your toe in the water.
Alternatively, it may be that you are an experienced bdsm
submissive or slave, having served a Master in the past and for whatever reason
he has let you go and you are looking for another to serve. Be aware: We are
not all alike and although there are usually some commonalties between us, we
do hold highly differing values and expectations, you will not be able to
assume that you pick-up where you left-off.
On that note: my differentiation between a submissive and a
slave. As my sub you will be invited to agree parameters and I will be your
Master for no more than the duration of our Scene. As my slave - far greater a
commitment for us both - far more lengthy discussions will need to be had as my
investment in you will be that much more intense as yours will be. Either way,
if you are to approach me, you will need to have self-worth and self-value.
There are many who would call themselves Dom/Master or a dominant who I would
simply refer to as BULLY! Be careful - one who sees no value in herself is
invariably likely to be damaged, enormously, by such interaction. If you do not
see value in yourself - why should I value you either? If you are to serve me,
whether that be for a moment in time or a lifetime, you will be mine. As my
property I will value and protect you; serve me well and you will be rewarded;
serve me badly and you WILL be punished
